The Challenges of Self Love and Help
I am going to be completely honest here. This one post has literally knocked me on my butt. I have been trying to write this for weeks, however my own self help was not where it should’ve been when trying to help others with theirs. Directly after my last post I went on a trip to Florida with my boyfriend and his friends. I was exhausted when we got back, and I used that as an excuse. When in reality, I was back to reality… Which was no job, school hadn’t started yet, and my apartment was a wreck. Now I am sitting here basically a month later, and those three things have changed. I am beginning a new job this week, I started my MBA classes last week, and my apartment is still slightly a wreck but that’s because me and my roommate both get into funks of not wanting to clean. Which brings me to tell you, it’s okay. I was high key getting to a point where I didn’t take care of myself, and blamed it on not having things to do. When in reality, you don’t have to “have things to do”, to take care of yourself. You are your first priority. Yes, I said that. Nothing else comes before you, because when you look at the past, present and future, what is the constant? YOU. Even though you change through each period and each day, YOU are what is permanent with your life. Also, even though I just told you to look at your past, I am not telling you to dwell in it. Who you were in the past, and the things that happened to you, are not who and what you are today. Yes they shaped you, and made you better. Your mistakes are only mistakes if you don’t learn from them. I also want each one of you to understand that it is okay, not to be okay. I promise you that if you look up and away from yourself. You are surrounded by so many people that would love to hear from you, and want to genuinely know how you are doing. It is okay to be vulnerable. I am telling myself that too… Let me repeat. It is okay, to be vulnerable. We are all human, and we all have those pesky days where it feels like every single thing that you suppressed is weighing on your shoulders. I am letting you know, you have people who are willing to help lift those things up, and tell you, you are okay. You are going to grow. You are an amazing human, and what that other human did was not okay, but you are going to do, and be so much better. And. I love you. Another thing, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Mentally. Emotionally. AND. Physically. Listen to yourself. Take time with yourself. Take yourself on a date. I know that sounds weird, but honestly what are dates for if not to get to know the one on the date with you. Use the time to reconnect with yourself. Maybe your body is tired and stressed, take yourself on a walk… WITHOUT YOUR PHONE. Maybe your mind is tired of trying to figure every little thing, that honestly will figure itself out, but take your mind to a book, or to something artsy. Let something else do the thinking for you. Get it? I promise you, it is okay to take time for yourself. I used to turn my phone off for an entire 24 hours once a month. I learned that if someone really needed me, they would contact those I am usually with on a daily, or they would wait till the next day. I also learned how attached I was to it in situations I wasn’t sure how to do on my own. We use our phones as an escape, when in reality if we looked up we can escape reality with reality. Lastly, hygiene and health… I know, something we all claim we do, but I also know, there is always something we put off, when we are feeling down. Drink your water, scrub your entire body in the shower like you are wiping away every bad feeling you felt in the last 24 hours or in some cases the last couple days. Hygiene and health, go hand and hand with our feelings. Take care of yourself, and your surrounding. It’s not just the saying of those who you hang out with are who you are, but what you do for yourself is also who you are. If your are not taking care of yourself, you are going to be grumpy, tired, or just not feeling great. That depression taking over you, kick it in the ass. Sit in it for a couple day, and then take it and throw it like the ex you want to throw across the country. Get up, wash your face, and body, make yourself look and feel good, and then start with something small, and then seize your life.
For my words of affirmation siblings, here you go (some might be blunt):
You are amazing (now say it to yourself) ——> I am amazing
You are beautiful inside and out. ——> I am beautiful inside and out.
You need a shower. ———> I need a shower
Drink something healthy, gosh darn it. -> Gosh darn it, I need to drink something healthy.
Keep going! ——> I am going to keep going!
Smile, even when you feel psychotic.->I am going to keep smiling, even if I look psychotic!
Take advantage of your manic moment, and don’t dye your hair, get a piercing, or a tattoo. Clean your room instead:) (big breath) ——> I am going to clean my room, instead of dying my hair, getting a piercing, or a tattoo!
You are so loved. ——> I am so loved.
I love you, and you have so many people in your life that want to see you get off your ass, and take care of yourself, so that you can achieve and be the person that you are meant to be. They know you are not always going to be okay, and they will be ready for you when you are ready to be vulnerable with them. They want to see you take time for yourself, instead of using all of your energy on people who can also take care of themselves. And lastly, you are always growing, and becoming an evolved you; You are not your past. You are not what people in your past said about you. YOU ARE YOU, and that is all you EVER need to be.
I love you,
Your Blunt Big Sis. ❤
